Kate Motaung

We’ve all seen the movie where the hero is a brave person who doesn’t show any signs of anxiety. They are praised that their hands aren’t shaking even with a gun to their head and their face isn’t beet red as they dual for the win. Our modern society praises heroes like this and in doing so, reinforces our inner dialogs that anxiety is the opposite of bravery. It reinforces that anxiety equals weakness and that it should be fixed. Those fictional movies of profound heroism are great for selling out theaters, but they aren’t realistically portraying fear, anxiety, and bravery. They aren’t showing the profound anxiety that precedes the act large of heroism. Likewise, they skip the pulsing heart and the internal dialog that the hero must face before fighting the giant or making the life altering decision. They make heroism seem like an act someone does without fear, instead of an act someone does despite their fears and anxiety. Now, apply this concept of bravery to your own life. Is it a sign of weakness that you are afraid to make a speech in front of your classmates? Feeling anxious before public speaking is natural and is perhaps a sign of inexperience, but it is not a sign of weakness. Are you weak because you feel anxiety about a failed relationship? Of course not. Anxiety over human relationships is a sign that you care about the people in your life. Should you be embarrassed that you’re too anxious to get out of bed and face the day? Absolutely not. This anxiety you feel doesn’t mean that you’re too emotionally or mentally weak to face the day. It is a natural response to your circumstances. If anxiety isn’t weakness, what is it? Anxiety is a natural response to [...]

Out of all human emotions, anger and fear are probably the most problematic. Both emotions can have significant consequences for our lives if they are not handled well. In this article, we will discuss how to deal with anxiety by exploring what the Bible has to say about it. What does anxiety look and feel like? Fear goes by many names – anxiety, worry, distress, dismay, trepidation, dread, and many more. It varies by degree of intensity, from a feeling of slight unease up to absolute terror. We can express our fear in many ways: Repetitive, racing, or spiraling thoughts. Sweaty palms, increased heart rate, dry mouth, a “pit” in your stomach, difficulty sleeping, or disordered eating. Withdrawal from or avoidance of certain relationships or environments. Hampered ability to focus or pay attention, or by a feeling of paralysis in deciding what to do next. Sometimes fear is not immediately obvious. It can manifest as other emotions such as anger or be expressed through behaviors such as a preoccupation with cleaning or becoming organized, for example. What degree of fear do you most often feel, or frequently becomes an issue for you? How do you express your anxiety? What is the underlying reason for anxiety? The underlying reason for anxiety has to do with control. They are two sides of the same coin. We want to control something, but we can’t, so we become anxious about it. The common factor across every reason for anxiety is uncertainty. We feel vulnerable because we cannot control something and thus the future is uncertain. Flower Mound Christian Counseling can help you navigate these feelings of anxiety and find peace amidst uncertainty. What do you feel anxious about? Naming your worries helps you to see that they are finite and specific rather than [...]